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Friendship Advice about Making New Friends

Following is a recent list of people's Top-15 goals tagged on

  1. Be happy — 14,610 people
  2. Get a tattoo — 13,404 people
  3. Go on a road trip with no predetermined destination — 12,573 people
  4. Get married — 11,928 people
  5. Travel the world — 11,559 people
  6. Save money — 9,217 people
  7. Make new friends — 8,381 people
  8. Buy a House — 8,091 people
  9. Get out of debt — 6,798 people
  10. Get a job — 6,409 people
  11. Wake up when my alarm clock goes off — 5,931 people
  12. Start my own business — 5,566 people
  13. Quit Smoking — 5,554 people
  14. Decide what the hell I would like to do with the rest of my life — 4,953 people
  15. Spend less time fooling around on the net and more time actually working — 4,527 people

Note that the Number 7 goal on the above list is to "make new friends."

You have to do the right things rather than the instinctive things when attempting to make new friends.

Here are a few tips for making new friends:

  • Should you care what your others think about your friends? Yes, if you are still living with your parents and still a kid. But if you're too old to go to the playground, don't place too much value on the opinions of others, particularly relatives.
  • Trust not what inspires other members of society to choose a friend. Trust what inspires you. You are the only one who can decide who will bring happiness or misery into your life.
  • Don't be fooled by first impressions.  Ironically, nice people are often not good people. Just as ironically, good people are often not nice people. Some people may have some rough edges, and even be jerks, but they are generous and trustworthy — these are good people.
  • A BORING YOU begets BORING FRIENDS. An INTERESTING YOU begets INTERESTING FRIENDS. And, of course, vice versa.
  • Chance and risk are the hallmarks of winning at the friendship game.
  • Know the difference between friends and acquaintances.

Here are a few friendship quotes for choosing new friends:

Promises may get friends, but it is performance that must nurse and keep them.
— Owen Feltham

A man should choose a friend who is better than himself.
— Chinese proverb

The making of friends who are real friends, is the best token we have of a man's success in life.
— Edward Everett Hale

It is better to be hated for what you are than loved for what you are not.
— Andre Gide

Be slow in choosing a friend, but slower in changing him.
— Author Unknown 

Don't make friends who are comfortable to be with. Make friends who will force you to lever yourself up.
— Thomas J. Watson, Sr.

Give what you have. To someone, it may be better than you dare to think.
— Henry Longfellow

Make new friends but cherish the old ones.
— H. Jackson Brown, Jr.

A true friend is one who likes you despite your achievements.
— Unknown Wise Person


More Friendship Tips for Meeting New Friends on The Friendship Café:

  • In the friendship game, try going with the flow of life a little more.
  • Let things happen naturally instead of always trying to make things happen.
  • Perhaps you have noticed that it's always easier to ride a horse in the direction it's going.
  • When a friend gives you a gift, treasure it, regardless of how much or little it cost your friend.Place it somewhere important so that you see the gift often. This will constantly remind you of the value of your friendship with this person. Moreover, just think how much more satisfaction your friend will experience from having given you the gift when she sees it prominently displayed in your living room ten years after she gave it to you.

For more information and opinions on friendship and money see:

1.   Advice: How Do I Make New Friends?
Hara Estroff Marano gives advice on making lasting new friendships....


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Top-10 List of Best Things Ever Said about Friendship

Nothing but heaven itself is better than a friend who is really a
— Plautus

Only your real friends will tell you when your face is dirty.
— Sicilian Proverb

It is one of the blessings of old friends that you can afford to be
stupid with them.
— Ralph Waldo Emerson

On the road between homes of friends, grass does not grow.
— Norwegian proverb

If I don't have friends, then I ain't nothing.
— Billie Holiday

Friendship is like money, easier made than kept.
— Samuel Butler 

To be rich in friends — is to be poor in nothing.
— Anon

A mere friend will agree with you, but a real friend will argue.
— Russian Proverb

Make new friends but cherish the old ones.
— H. Jackson Brown, Jr.

A loyal best friend is someone who sticks up for you even when you're not there.
— Anon

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